Saying “No” To Sabotage

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The next 30-Day Challenge: No eating out. Only home cooked meals for us. That includes running to the store to pick up a bottle of wine! Image courtesy of and Serge Bertasius Photography.

August marks the month where my husband and I are finally in sync about health and fitness goals. Over the last year, it came too easy for us to sabotage each other. Whether I’m feeling sorry for myself or he’s stressing out over the job, we always seem to end up in the same place – one of us suggests we go out for dinner and a few drinks to relax.

Sure we’d always eat low carb, but if I can’t control the food (how it’s prepared, the ingredients, etc.) it isn’t necessarily low carb! Also when you go out carb creep escalates – a dessert here, an extra glass of wine there.

But we’re not just turning to food for comfort. It’s the “atmosphere” of going out to help escape from the daily grind. We’ve created a very bad habit for ourselves and it’s messing with our health and bank account.

We tried cutting back on the dining out. The problem is we worry about hurting the other’s feelings by saying “no” to a night of “fun.” Yet the things we use to do together in the evenings – go on walks, play games, work on puzzles, or mini DIY projects – are just as fun to us.

It’s just too easy to have someone else do all the work – cooking, serving, cleaning up. Sure it’s easy until you realize the drain on your bank account and tighter clothes. Ugh!

We’re so ready to finally say “no” when it comes to dining out. Now comes the heavy lifting – putting it in practice.

Here are our 6 steps to stop eating out:

1. Commit to the Decision
This is the key. If we’re not in agreement on this, it won’t work. Period.

2. Setting the Ground Rules
It’s one thing to say no more going out, but what does that mean? Does going out to Starbucks count? Picking up a bottle of wine on the way home? Pre-packaged “healthy” meals from the grocery store? Do they count? For us they do. And what about those “special occasions?” The problem for us is that we can turn anything into a special occasion. We have to be all or nothing…zero tolerance.

3. Eat At Home 30-Day Challenge
For the month of August all our meals are at home. Period. The only exception is if we do cookouts at a friend’s house (still eating at home…just not ours but we have to make food that we can eat). I find 30-Day Challenges a great way to created good habits.

4. Consistent & Simple Meal Planning
I’m a big believer in setting menus for the week – it was a key to my weight loss. But I’ve been lax in my consistency and left open some holes in my menu for dining out. No more! My goal is keeping the weekday meal plans as simple as possible – more grab and go for our busy lives. But the weekend is for having some creative fun in the kitchen that we can do together.

5. Embrace Leftovers!
Leftovers are the best way to keep my meal plans simple as possible. The work is already done. Another benefit of leftovers? It’s the best low carb form of take-out. Instead of ordering pick up from a restaurant, just take it out of the fridge. Awesome!

6. Redefine “Fun”
Again, it isn’t just the ease of having someone else do the cooking and cleaning. We go out because we enjoy the “atmosphere.” But in reality we’re just leaving our home to sit someplace noisy.  Really!?! We’re re-committing to the things we did before my cancer — walking in the nature preserve near our home, playing with the pups at our dog park, playing games, riding our bikes.

Activity is key to burning off the angst of the day.

Day One – Our First Challenge
The first test came last night. The hubby had a bad day at work. He was planning to pick up some charcoal for grilling and mentioned picking up a bottle of wine. My response: “NO! We said no wine or going out.”

We passed the challenge, eating a meal at home without wasting money on wine or drinking excessive carbs. Afterwards, we ended up playing a game together.

“No”… it really is an easy word to say.

Embrace it.

3 thoughts on “Saying “No” To Sabotage

  1. Shannon Sanchez

    Hi Dot, My son who is 26 and I are roomates..splitting bills/rent because it’s just too $$ for either of us to live in So. Cal. With that said, we also share a car and carpool to work and everyday on the way home the question: whats for dinner? The same issue as with you guys..temptation, being worn out, etc. We did pretty good for a while a few months ago and we got to the point we didn’t want food out at all and we were saving alot of $$. I fully agree with you that we need to talk, commit and just do it. I have also started taking a different route home in the evenings to avoid the old tricks, lots of food choices on the way home..too tempting. Thanks so much for what you are doing. 🙂

  2. I just found your blog today after your YouTube video was recommended and I watched it. I too am LCHF (keto) and maintaining a 60+ lb weight loss for 7 years. And I understand stress/carb creeping/eating out/etc. I think I’m really going to enjoy your blog! Ok… I’ve got a lot of fun reading to do! Thanks and have a GREAT day!

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